I remember growing up, the time I spent with my mum and how we built a strong relationship . She was always there playing her part.I started sharing every little thing with her and how she talks with me about issues that bother me. On the day of my graduation, she came fully prepared (even though she was ill) to support me in every way. That's my mum for you💓💓💓💓😍
I learnt a whole lot from her actions. It got me thinking...How children respond to early parent-child relationships.
I've spoken to couple of Parent, Moms and Dads and this research found that when babies were left alone for sometime and the mother eventually returns.....
Secure babies -are happy to see their mother when she returns
Avoidant babies-ignore their mothers and don't care if she's there or not because they are not used to having that consistent care anyway. These children tend to bottle up their feelings and learn to take care of themselves most of the time
Ambivalent babies- usually have mixed feelings about caregivers. They are usually in-between wanting and not wanting their mothers back because they are not sure how long she will be around for.
Does this have an impact in their adult life? Can this be corrected by experiencing consistent loving care from another adult? Can caring caregivers in creches or early years settings play a part in recreating a healthy pathway to a secure attachment?
Kindly share your experience and how it affected you growing, or how your parenting style affects your relationship with your child/children, so we all can learn.
Keep glowing and growing
xo
This is quite insightful. Thank you.
ReplyDeleteThank you for reading Hope darling :)
DeleteHow interesting.
ReplyDeleteBabies are usually in love with the hands that treat them sweet. The whole upbringing of a child affects his relationship with his parent and his adulthood. Yet the personality of the child or adult child still matters
True! Thank you for reading :)
DeleteA very nice piece i must say...Parenting Style is also the manner in which we instill values both characterwise to our infants till adulthood physically,mentally, emotionally,spiritually and psychologically..
ReplyDeleteAnd some parents like myself also tend to get it wrong atimes maybe based on mood swings or other situations affecting them at that moment..
But that notwithstanding we should not allow our mood get hold of us and try to be the best we can be....
So Correct. Thank you Mrs Chuks for this!
DeleteMother child relationship is very important as for me it made me build confidence in my mom and will never hide anything from her
ReplyDeleteI was definitely a secure baby. Parent Child relationship is of paramount importance in a child's growing . It has an impact in their adult life. That's why most children are closer to their mum than their dad.
DeleteLovely piece and lovely new blog look. I love it.
I also learnt something new today: secure babies, avoidant babies and ambivalent babies
I can attest to this! Thank you for this Chika darling :)
DeleteThat's true! Parent-Child relationship is key! Thanks Vee darling :)
DeleteFirst of all, I really like your new look. Kudos to you.
ReplyDeleteSecondly, as much as I believe that parenting is instinctive, there is still every chance for parents to learn daily using their failed and successful experiences as a background for performing better. Every child should have a strong bond with their parents especially their mom. When this relationship goes wrong, parenting has failed and it will leave a long lasting negative effect on the child.
Absolutely! Thanks Darling :)
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ReplyDeleteI like the new look, it's really beautiful. I was a secure baby. I was and still am very close to my mum. She was always available and taught me almost everything I know. There is a very strong bond between us and she's practically my best friend. I try as much as I can to be same to my children though it's not easy given the peculiarities of these times but I keep making conscious efforts to be available and close to them as much as I can. God help me.
ReplyDeleteAmen! It can be difficult, but since you are making deliberate efforts you will definitely conquer. Thank you so much ma :)
DeleteAttention and eye for detail is key in the upbringing of a child...
ReplyDeleteThis cannot be overemphasized!!
This is absolutely true! Thank you for reading :)
DeleteThe parent- child relationship lays the foundation for the child’s personality, life choices and overall behaviour. It can also affect the strength of their social, physical, mental and emotional health. I love the new look of the blog iphii.xoxo
ReplyDeleteI totally agree with this! Thank you sis
DeleteI thibk im between an ambivalent and avoidant baby. Made me grow up hustling and fending for myself most times. Being an only child didn't really hrlp either. I love the new look😘😘
ReplyDeleteAwwwwwww...I can attest mumsy also did a great job! Thank you for reading sis :)
DeleteThe new look got me smiling... And excited to read.
ReplyDeleteYes parenting style does affect a child.
I grew up having my parents voice in my head at one point or the other, be it my communication and action...most especially my mom, her standing in at all point where we would need dad but he's not around... Made us more fond of her and has taught me to be supportive to my partner. Don't make the room obvious there is less or lack of care,want,or happiness etc.
I hope to be very available and pass some love to my child so she could pass on.
Aaaawwwwwww That is mothers for you! Thank you so much for reading :)
Deletemother child relationship is very important also the right amount to father-child....the background of your blog also bright ☺
ReplyDeleteTrue! Thank you so much :)
DeleteBeautiful topic dear sister, I like this "corner" where we talk about parent-child relationship. It's an all encompassing for a child's personality. This relationship is vital, delicate and requires a conscious effort. The relationship I experienced with my parents made me to believe and trust them. Good child-parents relationship helps to build great bonds and keep family values alive.
ReplyDeleteThis is really cool.It takes one back to childhood days and also remind you that no matter what,you need to make out time for your children
ReplyDeleteThe new look is dope! Growing up for me was a bit different, mum was not available, dad was there and I was really close to him. No matter who the care giver is,a child needs both parents or at least one of them to be available at every point in time and special moment. I am making conscious effort to be available for my kids despite my busy schedule, same for their dad since it has a lot of impact on their physical, emotional and psychological well being. Good write up Ms Ify
ReplyDeleteLove the new look! Here is an important and well put write up. Every parent should read this. Growing up I didn't have that close relationship with my mother, although I had aunts around to teach and guide me always. I'm very close to my daughter now and I'm beginning to see the importance of mother-daughter relationship.
ReplyDeleteThanks for this! Have always have that love from my mum to me and the rest of us. She's always there for us.. So having my child was the same love and care I do gave him i was never living his side and he's always so happy being around me no matter how far and long I traveled and came back..
ReplyDeleteThe newlook is awesome.
ReplyDeleteThe relationship between parent and child should not be over emphasised. I was close to my mom and I knew her weakness and strength and that relationship is what is helping me now with my own child. He tells me about everything that happens in his life, though most times I travel for weeks bit he always looks out for my return.
Thank you for this piece, youre doing a great work
I can imagine, funny enough growing up i remember sitting at the door waiting for mum to come back. Thank you so much for reading :)
DeleteYes as a mother, you must try to create a bonding relationship between you and the children, It goes a long way especially when they grow to become teenager and adult. As teenagers they tend to keep to themselves but if there's a bond right from baby it helps you to know when all is well with the child. Thanks for the piece it has a lot of information in it. More grace🙏
ReplyDeleteTrue! Thank you so much for reading :)
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